A national survey asked 400 men which they would prefer to indure?

  • to be left alone and unloved in the world
  • to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone

The answer seemed so obvious to me.  It took me no thinking time at all.  I want to be loved!  Above everything else, I would choose love over respect.

74% of the men said that if they were forced to choose, they would prefer being alone and unloved.  Can respect be that big of a thing to men?

What would you choose, if forced?  What would your husband or boyfriend choose?

Love and Respect is the name of the book that our Sunday morning class is reading.  The author, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, states that a woman’s highest need is love and a man’s highest need is respect.  All people need love and respect, but one is the trump card.  Do you think the trump card is different for each sex?

The book says, “For these men, the greater negative experience for their souls to endure would be to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone.”

What do you think?